Posted on October 10, 2013 in Divorce

Divorce is a scary and overwhelming matter, one that can be made even more stressful when children are involved. One of the scariest aspects of divorce for parents is breaking the news to the kids about the divorce. While this may seem like an ominous task, there are many helpful tips and guidelines out there to help you give 'the talk' as best as you can.

First and foremost, many children feel that if their parents- who are supposed to love each other no matter what- can stop loving each other, then who's to say they won't stop loving the kids as well? Children often fear that they will lose one of their parents after a divorce or that they will be abandoned altogether; assure them this is not the case. Make sure your children know that you will always be there for them and will never stop loving them.

To give the talk effectively, it's best for you and your spouse to agree on what you're going to say ahead of time. You want to iron out all the details of what will and will not say in front of the kids. It's important that the two of you do not argue or contradict each other when breaking the news. It's best to try and present a united front so that the children see you will both remain a part of their lives. You are still a family, just a different one. However, not all divorces are especially amicable. If you and your spouse must have separate talks with the kids, you should still agree on what you will be telling them. You do not want to send conflicting messages about the divorce.

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 Posted on September 28, 2013 in Divorce

No one is fully prepared for divorce. However, chances are that you will know when a divorce becomes imminent for you and your spouse. There are a few things that you need to do, according to Chicago Now, before you file for divorce or announce your intentions to do so.

'Gather copies of your tax returns for a minimum of three years. You will also want to gather the statements for all of your bank accounts, retirement and brokerage accounts, and IRAs. Having this paperwork on hand will save you money. If you have to have the attorney obtain them, you will have to approximately additional fees.

Order a current copy of your credit report. You need to have all of the information about joint accounts that you have with your spouse. You want all debt to be dealt with during the divorce negotiations so that you are not adversely affected.

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