Overcoming Barriers to Divorce
A lot of people find themselves staying in their marriage not because they are happy, but because they have logistical barriers to divorce. Many spouses rely on one another for varying types of support whether they are happy together or not. You may have children together that you care for as a team. You may have combined your finances to such a degree that separating yours from theirs could be challenging, or you may be in a position where the family needs two incomes to pay expenses.
All of this can make it more difficult to get divorced. However, remaining in a marriage that is no longer working and is making you miserable may be even more difficult over the years. Additionally, the longer you stay married the more difficult it may become to sort out the issues that would arise in your divorce. You may find that while the time period during the divorce is challenging, things will get much easier as time goes on and you will be happier in the end. An attorney can help you plan to overcome any barriers to divorce you may face.
Common Barriers to Divorce and How to Overcome Them
Many people in unhappy marriages hold the same reasons for staying, and these reasons are generally practical and logistical rather than emotional. Common barriers and what can be done about them include:
- Being a homemaker - If you have not worked for pay for many years because your spouse was the breadwinner, you might worry about how you will support yourself. One potential option is to pursue temporary alimony, which can allow you to spend time getting an education or learning job skills so your career prospects will be better.
- Caring for children - Children of divorced parents are often better off than children of parents in a contentious marriage. You should know that in nearly all cases, both parents will have plenty of parenting time after the divorce. You may need to adjust how you parent at first, but you will quickly develop a new routine that works after splitting up.
- Financial issues - Most families these days require two incomes. However, there are plenty of options other than staying married. Selling the marital home and establishing separate downsized households may help. Or, you and your spouse could look into living with friends or family at first.
Some amicably divorced couples have even had success in continuing to live in the same household with separate bedrooms, allowing for effortless co-parenting and less financial stress.
Contact a Kane County Divorce Lawyer
Van Larson Law, P.C., is dedicated to helping people overcome barriers to divorce. Our committed Batavia divorce attorneys will strive to make your divorce as simple as possible. For a complimentary consultation, please contact us at 630-879-9090.