Life after Divorce: Moving Forward
An Illinois woman’s social media photos that depict her celebrating her divorce have garnered international media attention. The woman hired the original photographer who took her wedding photographs five years ago to document the celebration, which included setting her wedding dress on fire. The woman, who said she was with her ex for a total of 10 years and who she shares a 6-year-old daughter with, said the experience made her “feel free.”
Although setting your wedding dress on fire may feel like an extreme choice to you, there are other steps you can take to help you move forward after a divorce.
Recognize Your Own Value
Many times, people who go through a divorce feel as if they have failed and question their own worth and how much they really do have to offer. Make a list of all your good qualities and read that list on a daily basis. Keep doing this until you really believe what you are reading.
Give Yourself Ten Minutes Every Day
Divorce is like a death and it is only natural to go through a grieving process. People handle this in different ways, but it is not uncommon for people to keep themselves too busy, especially doing things for everyone else, but forgetting about themselves. Take ten minutes a day for self-care. Do something special just for you. Even if it is something as simple as reading a book or taking a walk.
Let It Go
Marriage breakups can be harsh and ugly. Spouses can say and do hurtful things to each other. However, it is important to let go of any anger and bitterness you have towards your ex-spouse. It is also critical for moving forward not to dwell on what could have been or the “if only” questions we all tend to focus on.
It can be hard adjusting to single parenting and all the responsibility that go along with it. Instead of having two people sharing parenting duties, suddenly it is all on you. This can feel overwhelming and stressful at times. You also may be feeling financial stress of now being a one-income household. No matter what you are dealing with, remember to find the humor in things every day. Take time to just relax and laugh with your children. Seeing you relaxed will also help them feel more secure in knowing that things will be fine despite the divorce.
Representation You Can Trust
Whether you are just considering divorce or having issues that may require a modification to your existing divorce, contact a skilled Kane County divorce attorney to find out what legal options you may have. Call the office of Van A. Larson, P.C. at 630-879-9090 today.