Divorcing a Narcissist or “Narcopath”
There are countless reasons why a couple may decide that they are ready for divorce. The psychological state or condition of one half of the couple is definitely one of them. Just as broad definitions of different types of relationships continue to gain traction, so do the names and conditions of psychology. One of the most recent psychological terms coined by marriage counselors and psychologists is that of the “narcopath,” a person who is considered both a psychopath and a narcissist. This can be dreadful combination in a spouse, that could potentially result in emotional abuse of the other spouse, and subsequent divorce.
Like many subtle psychological conditions that can ruin a marriage, a narcopath does not necessarily display his or her condition outright. That is, the abuse perpetuated by such a person can sometimes be so disguised that the victim in the relationship does not notice the signs. These may include that the person is very good at fooling others in order to get what he or she wants. Another may be that any criticism is always handled in an extremely negative manner, which does not allow the other person to give constructive feedback. Another subtle sign is an inflated sense of self or ego.
This behavior could date all the way back to the beginning of the marriage, in fact. Narcissists, for example, frequently want their partner to agree to get married, but do not necessarily want marriage. The wedding is the appeal of the following through with the commitment—not the commitment itself. That is to say, narcissists want the opportunity for a large ceremony to celebrate themselves, rather than to make a public statement of long-lasting love.
This can be complicated if and when one partner files for divorce. That is, a narcissist can be a difficult person to leave or to divorce. It is estimated that the condition affects roughly 8 percent of men and 5 percent of women, making it a much more common condition than one may think.
If you or someone you know is considering divorce because you fear that your spouse may be a narcissist or a narcopath—or for any other reason—the most important step is to seek legal counsel. Do not go through it alone. Contact an experienced Kane County family law attorney today.